30 Days of Asking: Days One and Two

September 2, 2013 0 Comments

Setting out to simplify my life in one month by asking two questions, “Do I love it?  Does it love me?” in all sorts of situations will be a test of my resolve to stay on task.  People who know me will surely remember that I’m a firm believer that most of us abide by the 80/20 rule.  Some would call it the Pareto Rule, stating that  80% of outcomes can be attributed to 20% of the causes for a given event.  My spin is that whether it’s a task, a job, a project, or even a book, there is a tendency of people to work hard to complete the first 80% of “whatever”, but we tend to run out of resolve for the last 20%.  Thus a fireplace mantle is built, sanded, varnished…but a piece of trim is missing.  A kitchen is cleaned after dinner, but a few dishes sit in the sink; or counters are wiped but table is not.  A budget is built, but food is left off (McDonald’s budgetary guides for their workers).

The question is, will I maintain my goal of spending the next thirty days purging, organizing and letting go of things and beliefs that no longer add value to my life?

Day One, Sunday, September 1 was designated as “Time” with the question being how am I spending my time, do the activities add meaning, health, and/or joy to my life.  I was at once confronted with a tactical error.  We had overnight company, Steve’s son and family including two adorable children arrived Sunday morning.  We played with the electric train, the iPad, we went to the park, and we ate a meal with the great aunts.  All time well spent, but hardly a representative day-in-the-life.  I’ll need to reschedule a more representative day to study my time usage, maybe even a couple of days.

What I did learn on Sunday was that I spend too much time looking for seldom used items, like Gorilla Glue.  I also learned that I needed to get up earlier and meditate first thing if I was going to keep my meditation habit going.

Before

Before

Day Two, September 2.  Shoes.  How do men do it?  Steve has four pair of shoes and a pair of boots–total.  Three pair are the same brand, style and age.  There is brown, there is cordovan and there is black.  Tennis shoes and hiking boots round out the collection.  He seems to be happy, not maladjusted at all.  He doesn’t even stand in front of the mirror with one black and one brown shoe checking to see which one looks best.  However…

After

After

…look at the progress.  I managed to purge two pair of ratty flip-flops, sort out my tennis shoes, let go of a pair of platform shoes I bought on-line and never could wear because they killed my feet, and kept only three pair of red shoes.  Eureka, all the shoes left in my closet are loved and all the shoes in my closet love me back.  (Defined as they fit, they are in good condition, I’ve worn them in the last year).

But, I must admit my fudge:  a gorgeous pair of Kate Spade, gold brocade, peep-toe pumps that have a place of honor in my living room book-case.  Worn once, two years ago tomorrow, vows exchanged, witnessed by my best friends, officiated by an old college roommate, sanctified with love.  Namaste, Becky.

Steve and Becky, September 3, 2011

Steve and Becky, September 3, 2011

 

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